barmar, on 2019-February-23, 22:53, said:
Who knows if it comes up much now, either. Just because you answer a poll question some way doesn't mean you're going to think about that issue in your normal daily life.
Also, while the parents might not explicitly ask what party their child's future spouse is, it will often factor into how they feel about them after they've gotten to know them. If they're of the opposite party, dinner conversations might frequently devolve into arguments about Trump.
And 50 years ago they would have been arguments about whether the Vietnam War was a good idea.
Yes, and just in general I am skeptical of reading a great deal into polls. To the extent a poll can be trusted, it seems to show a change in attitude. And my experience is just one experience, although I think it was pretty typical. Whether the intended spouse was pregnant was of interest, whether she was a Democrat was not. It wasn't. Other things were. Has she been Jewish or Catholic that would have raised eyebrows. At that time it was thought, agreed upon by most Jews, Catholics and Protestants that I knew, that Jews should marry Jews, Catholics should marry Catholics, Protestants should marry Protestants. The concern was not over fights over religion at the dinner table, the concern was hiow to raise the kids if each parent took his/her religion seriously. Perhaps some people somewhere wondered how the kids would be raised if one parent was a Democrat and one a Republican but I never heard anyone say that and I don't think anyone I knew believed that. This agreement across religions about marrying within your own religion was very strong.
There really seems to be a greater level of concern now over political differences withing family and friends. I mentioned before that the political landscape was varied at my recent birthday party. At one extreme a friend once explained to me that he is not a liberal he is a radical. And there were a a few people who surely voted for Trump. I lie somewhere between these two extremes and enjoyed the company of all of them. The age range was from 8 year old Tyler (no known political affiliation) to 88 (Joe the radical) but it leaned heavily in the older direction and that kept things calm. Some years back, Al, a young radical, got very upset with me. Joe explained that he, Joe, has been a radical all of his life and os not surprised when people disagree with him but Al was new at radical politics so I should take that into account. Similar to the advice I have been getting about my view of Krugman, I'm easy.
Anyway, times have changed.
Added: No doubt I have too much time on my hands. I have been thinking about what makes us the way we are. or at least what made me the way I am. It's not an easy question, imo.