1 - I am much younger than average of players locally and I feel that I do not fit in (note - this is personal feeling, it is likely not true but nonetheless is how i feel)
2 - When I do play, I play 75% of time w/my tournament partner. We have fairly intensive system, and we are frequently harassed when we alert bids.
NOW for the dilemma, after having briefly described the environment. I play the other day in club game with a friend (other than regular partner). And we had one round that absolute torture for me. My friend and I were discussing the failure to alert some bids @ previous table, when our current opponent gives unsolicited comment;
"We dont alert bids just to confuse people though"
I intrepreted this as an inuendo towards us and was very unhappy with this comment.
So now for the actual bridge hands. The first hand, my partner opened Flannery 2D (as I properly alerted), I bid 2H with my 3433 3 count and my LHO then goes into huddle. Reaches for a bid, puts it back, fumbles around in the bidding box and suddenly lightning strike and she find the bid she wanted all along, 3nt. My partner passes and my RHO without any thought at all, bids 4C. So the local 'fad' is that 4C is always Gerber, so I wasnt about to stand for them getting a free shot @ Gerber (he,he) so I bid 4H (white vs red - yes i know i am wrong) and my LHO bids 5C. So the hand that bid 3nt hits the table;
Qx
xx
AQJx
AKQJ10
HMMMMMMMMMMMMMM, isnt this fishy. I was always taught that over 2 level bids 3nt was meant to play. Isnt that convenient that the other hand pull 3nt to 4C with 4234 w/just a king and jack. So my conclusion was that the fumbling in the bidding box, was unauthorized information however such as to not incite the local social elite I did not call the director (futhermore, they were -200 in 5C, so they get bad result anyway).
The 2nd hand, auction proceed 1D by my RHO, pass by me, 1H by LHO, 1N by partner (as unpassed hand - we play sandwich in all position, hence I alert). Now please take into account the comment our opponent said before play of this round start ("We dont alert bids just to confuse people though"). The opps then bid to only 3H. Anyways, to make a long story short, IF the lady had asked about the alert (during bidding or play) she could have used that information to make an extra trick or two (Ax spades in her hand opposite KJ10x and failed to finesse for useful discard). But the lady played the hand without a care in the world as to what the alert was.
This round was TORTURE and stressful, between the pre-play comment, the unethical action on 1st board and the poor play on 2nd board I was ready to go home. Now I understand, that its my responsibility NOT to let such things bother me, however it does and I am not afraid to voice my opinion. I believe our local 'teacher' is insufficient, and I think the teacher fail to teach players about ethics and other intangibles. THIS is the type of play and behavior that prevents younger players from playing and enjoying the game.
Any comments or similar experience others have had, would be nice
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