Scarabin, on 2012-December-29, 01:25, said:
I am apalled by your experience, that minister was one s.o.b., but I think all people who are strongly committed, whether to belief or unbelief, tend towards blinkered thinking and ministers are particularly visible and may of course be too conscious of their "authority".
Many years ago my sister and her husband used to attend a church which featured regularly on the BBC. I asked her husband if he enjoyed being a member of such a famous church. He answered "Well when the cameras are not there the minister devotes his sermons to complaining that most of the congregation only attend the televised services. I have never understood why he wants to drive away the people who do attend by upbraiding them about the others".
As a college prof, I faced the same issue. I didn't grade on attendance eother directly or indirectly, as some do, by giving unannounced quizzes. But then not everyone attends class. In fact, as a student, I often did not attend class. Now no one burns in hell for not attending class, but they do sometimes get an F. So here I was, speaking on something I regarded as important, with some students there and some not. I would have to remind myself that it was pointless to tell the students who were there that it is important to be there.
Letting my mind drift along these lines, I failed two classes as an undergraduate. One was swimming. The final required that I swim a quarter mile in less than a certain time. I could beat that time by almost two minutes but I got a severe case of poison ivy and could barely get around at all so I took an incomplete. I had a full time job over the summer that had lots of overtime and by the fall I could no longer swim all that well. I figured I would not be kept out of grad school for failing swimming and just let the W turn to an F. The other class that I failed was required. The instructor came to class the first day, faced the class, and yawned. As he lectured I understood the yawn, and as I read the text, written by him, I really understood the yawn. So I showed up only for exams, on which I did well. But he gave a ten point quiz every day, open notes and open book, taken straight from homework. He could have turned in my F well before the fnal was given. But I didn't know this, so after I took the final I figured I was done. I had always wanted to tear up a book so after writing obscenities on it I invited my roomate to participate in a ceremonial book ripping. When I found out that I had failed I was pleased that I had not yet emptied the trash so I signed up to retake the course and attended every lecture, bringing my shredded obscenity laden text with me. I have maintained a lifelong revulsion for attendance quizzes.
No doubt I have strayed far off topic or have I? We all have stresses in our lives and we have to cope. My youthful approach probably wouldn't be copied by everyone, and it was sometimes a bit, or more than a bit, self-defeating, but I didn't pick up a gun and shoot anyone. Although I did not vote for George Bush (either of them), I always liked W's observation "When I was young and stupid I was young and stupid". Well, there is stupid and there is grizzly and awful. Stupid we can grow out of.