wyman, on 2010-October-22, 13:27, said:
Maybe it's a philosophical thing, or maybe I'm just a jerk; either way, deciding whether I was damaged or whether the opponents committed some sort of infraction is above my pay grade. I'm always of the "call the director, and let him or her sort it out" mindset. This might not make me popular with the crowd that perceives this as "tattling," but I paid my entry fee (even if it was a junior rate!), so I have rights.
Of course, it's not about winning or losing the club game (unless you are pro), but I don't typically treat a club game any different than I'd treat a sectional or regional. Moreover, there might be something subtle about the laws (or about directors) that I learn from the ruling (and postmortem thereof). Of course, there's the side benefit that your opponents may learn something about the laws also, however unlikely.
Dream on Brian...
I know what you mean, but to me there are definite differences between the club game and tournament games. A lot of the people we face at the club have been playing for decades without any appreciable improvement; they wouldn't know Unauthorized Information if it bit them on the backside. It would be beyond their capabilities to take advantage of UI, so what is the point of alienating them by embarrassing them in front of their peers? (Of course that is not how a director call should be viewed, but you and I both know that is how many of them perceive it.) It's true that you have "rights" but isn't it really better to just collect your tops against these people and accept the occasional bad board with equanimity (and grumble about it later with your friends)? Tournament bridge is different, not only because I have paid more money but because those who venture outside the friendly confines of their local social bridge group should be held to a higher standard. I wouldn't hesitate to call the director if the OP's situation happened in a tournament game.
FWIW, of course you aren't a jerk for expecting/demanding a level playing field and exercising your rights to ensure such. It's just that I used to feel exactly like you do, but I really don't like seeing old ladies cry when I make a (technically correct) director call; when that happens (yes it did happen to me, and I bet you know who I am referring to), you can't win, because any attempt to explain that the director call is not an accusation of cheating just sounds condescending, and just sitting there and letting the director do his job makes you look like a heartless bridge robot. So unless something like this is perpetrated by someone who, in my judgment, should know better, I really try to let it go even if I am seething inside.