JLOGIC, on Aug 4 2010, 09:34 PM, said:
Ahh, following the thread of Phil posts, always an interesting and exciting excersize.
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Lol Phil you're very funny. Let's do another "follow the Phil posts."
This seems to be the start of the attack. Sarcasm is evident. As a user of sarcasm, I think I recognize it. It is an aggresive form of humour.
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So now that the great jdonn has agreed with Phil, he sees this as ammo to fire a shot! He has been attacked, but with jdonn agreeing with him he musters of some courage:
This is an accusation of cowardice. Hmmm...looks like a personal attack to me
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What kind of pathological disorder do you have where it has to be about you?
Suggesting that someone has a pathological condition is rarely seen as complimentary
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I'm sorry if it hurt your feelings that I thought that wanting to say sorry generally shows a neutral characteristic that is probably a positive thing in the social bridge settings that you usually play in.
Maybe this is neutral, but when I read it I took it as a not-so-subtle reference to the levels at which you play compared to the levels at which Phil plays. It may be that my view was biased by your historical patronizing of Phil and the games in which he plays. It may seem silly to you but a lot of people have a significant and important (at least to them) life outside of bridge and bridge is a hobby, not a way to earn a living. Making patronizing comments demeans you more than it does your target. I wouldn't have mentioned this passage were it not for the context.
Then there were the oft-repeated refrences to how little you care about Phil...a repetition that struck me as odd if you didn't care about him or his comments. I thought you protested a little too much...or were you really trying to drive home just how insignificant people like Phil are to you?
As for my passive-aggressive attack on you...wow...another psychological analysis! I may be mistaken, in which case I extend to you my apology, but I recall a thread in which my impression was that you posted your IQ, which is, if memory serves high. I was not referring to my IQ, or to me, when I suggested that there may be several posters here with higher IQs...it struck me then and now that posting one's high IQ on a site such as this is a weird thing to do. Maybe it wasn't you who posted it or maybe it was in jest. As I say, if I misunderstood, I regret that part of my post.
As for some people thinking you are an asshole...I am not in that camp. As someone who is quite capable of acting like an asshole on occasion (and you may think I am doing so in this thread) I am not going to judge someone merely on the words they write on a forum post unles they are truly despicable words.
I would hope that someone who dishes out the criticism as strongly as you do won't sulk off somewhere merely because someone gives some back to you. I don't think you are that cowardly...and I respect your bridge views very much and would not like to see those posts come to an end.
'one of the great markers of the advance of human kindness is the howls you will hear from the Men of God' Johann Hari